you happier. We find it hard to believe that winning the lottery wouldn’t make
us happier because we could fulfill all of our dreams – the big house, luxury car,
exotic vacations, cool “toys,” etc. But then we hear the stories of lottery
winners going bankrupt and wishing they’d never won the grand prize. According to
article, lottery winners experience a spike in happiness but
eventually they return to pre-winning happiness levels. Lottery winners aside,
we can probably all think of people who make loads of money and their lives are train wrecks.
money doesn’t necessarily equate to more happiness…at least after a certain
point. A 2010 study out of Princeton
University showed that people were happier making more money up to about
$75,000. After that people don’t get much more happy making more money.
problem. What if the real issue is how we spend our money? Over Christmas break
I read Happy Money – The Science of Smarter Spending by Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton. Based on scientific
research the authors show five things we can do to derive more satisfaction
from our spending. I’ll share their five basic points and a few thoughts on
each. If what you read intrigues you then I encourage you to pick up a copy of the book for
Experiences – Whatever things we buy, we quickly get used to them. For
example, studies show people driving a BMW are no happier with their car than
those who drive a more economical car. However, positive experiences do make us
happier. Think about your home or car then think about some of the great vacations
you’ve taken or major events you’ve been a part of. Odds are you’ll have much
more fond memories of the experiential events.
– As noted above, we get used to things. It’s human nature. People can learn to
endure horrific things to the point where they are not shocked by the
experience. On the flip side we can easily get used to the nice home or car so neither elicits much feeling one way or another. Or how about this – if you visit Starbucks every day for your fancy caffeine fix,
odds are you don’t appreciate at it nearly as much as when you’ve gone without it for some period. The authors contend if we voluntarily cut back on certain
things, making them more of a treat when we do partake, we’ll be happier as a result.
opportunity to make more money. The amount we could make might be unlimited but
not so when it comes to time. Studies show spending money on things that might
save us time so we can participate in more experiential things will make us
happier. We can probably all think of a time when we missed an event because we
had to work or do chores. Paying someone to cut the grass or fix the house so
you can attend your kids’ events might be a wiser use of your money. You’ll be
happier for it and so will your family.
Consume Later – Wouldn’t life be grand if we didn’t have to worry about money?
It might be but that’s not the case and we hate the pain of paying. Paying as
you go is the worst because you might nickel and dime yourself out of things
that could make your purchase or experience much better. And you have the worry of paying
tacked on constantly as you go. Alternatively, you could just “charge it” and not worry
about it. However, throwing caution to the wind and living it up still means
paying the piper when the credit card bill arrives. At that point you begin to
wonder if it was all worth it, which leads to less satisfaction with your purchase and possibly regret.
Studies show that bearing the pain of paying up front reduces the stress during
and after the purchase, which leads to more happiness. For example – think
about going on a vacation where you constantly worry about the price of food,
drinks and activities vs. going to an all-inclusive resort where you paid up
front. At the all-inclusive you’ll probably throw caution to the wind and live
it up much more thereby creating a better experience and happiness.
in Others – Jesus told his followers “’Tis better to give than receive.” It
turns out science validates His ancient wisdom. Whether people were given
money or asked to spend their own, those who spent money on others rather than
themselves tended to be happier. And it doesn’t have to be large amounts of
cash. It could be as simple as paying for someone’s coffee. So next time you’re
out, look for a way to make another person’s day a little brighter and your day will
so. When you experience positive things with others you build on the liking principle because we like those with whom we share common bonds.
up front make you a happier person, people will enjoy being around you more.
Again, the liking principle is strengthened. Since people prefer to say yes to
those they know and like this should add to your persuasiveness.
never know. Good deeds have a way of making their way back around to those who
initiate them. Giving to others might just come back in an unexpected form at
some point in time. Some people call that karma.
pointers a try and see how you feel. You might just be happier as a result and
be a little more influential to boot.
Chief Influence Officer
Helping You Learn to Hear “Yes”.