You want to win the big game badly but to keep disappointment at bay you tell yourself you probably won’t win. How likely are you to succeed? Not very likely because that sounds like a self-fulfilling prophecy for failure.
Do you think people like to be around someone who always throws a wet towel on the possibilities? No, so you might end up with very few close friends.
You see someone you’d like to meet but think, “They’d never go for someone like me.” How much nerve will you work up to go talk to that person with that thought process? Probably none.
Helping You Learn to Hear “Yes”.